May I say "thank you for this post"? Because it put into words why I think that [Thing of the Day]Fails are, for me, more frustrating than helpful...and I am a Person of Color and a woman and a few other things. Fandom had been an escape before [Insert Thing Here]Fails and then it was implicitly (and sometimes explicitly) said that I must have something wrong with me for not going full force into every x-Fail discussion ever.

But that'd make me go all ranty in the comments.