I agree with you that kinkmemes shouldn't be banning prompts. You're right that we shouldn't be shaming each other for our kinks, especially on a kink meme, which is supposed to be a venue for exploring kinks without judgment.
But I'm bothered by some of what you say later in the post. Specifically, by the audience you assume in statements like this:
it's also become wrong, lately, for fandom just to be a place where you have fun, a place that's an easy escape. To participate in fandom is to, increasingly, necessarily have some sort of opinion on something you've probably never thought about, to admit to some sort of original sin for your cultural biases, your subtle linguistic racism
Who is the "you" here? It's apparently not a minority person or a person of color, because for most of those people, fandom never was an "easy escape." They're the ones who had to bear the brunt of the "cultural biases" and "subtle linguistic racism" for years. Now the privileged people are having to think about what they say, and that might make their fannish experience less fun, but doesn't it balance out? Because for every privileged person who learns to think before saying something hurtful, there's a less privileged person who will have more fun in fandom, because she'll have one less bit of "subtle linguistic racism" to tarnish her day.
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But I'm bothered by some of what you say later in the post. Specifically, by the audience you assume in statements like this:
it's also become wrong, lately, for fandom just to be a place where you have fun, a place that's an easy escape. To participate in fandom is to, increasingly, necessarily have some sort of opinion on something you've probably never thought about, to admit to some sort of original sin for your cultural biases, your subtle linguistic racism
Who is the "you" here? It's apparently not a minority person or a person of color, because for most of those people, fandom never was an "easy escape." They're the ones who had to bear the brunt of the "cultural biases" and "subtle linguistic racism" for years. Now the privileged people are having to think about what they say, and that might make their fannish experience less fun, but doesn't it balance out? Because for every privileged person who learns to think before saying something hurtful, there's a less privileged person who will have more fun in fandom, because she'll have one less bit of "subtle linguistic racism" to tarnish her day.