And all of this is one of the reasons I'm beginning to wonder what is different about fandom versus the "real world" where these things get discussed and both sides can sometimes admit that perhaps they were wrong and that maybe they can see the other's point. That rarely happens here, in fandom, and the anonymity and lack of ever having to face those we discuss things with adds to the practice of just making a point without ever admitting that MAYBE someone was offended but that that wasn't the intent, and that maybe some are being too sensitive and forgetting that we all have different backgrounds from which to see things through. I purposely skip things that I know will likely have "triggery" subjects in, sometimes missing things I would otherwise love to read in an effort to protect myself. Personal responsibility on the web is as important as it is in the rest of your life, if not in some ways more important.

Though, to add to what seems to be the majority of opinion, why go to or run a kink meme in hoping "no one" will be "offended"? Because, really? How the FUCK is that possible in any way shape or form? If I didn't want to possibly be offended, I'd stay the fuck out of fandom. Between the idea of "domestic discipline" or what I see as a "fetish" for putting certain characters in noncon/dubcon situations, I'd be offended right and left. So, I skip it, move on, and don't get involved because even if I'm offended and have what I feel as legitimate reasons to be offended, others might not for whatever reason, and fandom isn't here to make the world better or more accepting. It's here for us to show our love for something and say what we want to within that world and within in ours to a degree.

Not to mention, I am chubby. And the idea that "chubby chaser" is offensive is silly to me. BUT, I see how to some it might be, but I believe you have to look at the intent behind the use of that term, which in this case WAS NOT to offend.